Bitesize #40
Notes from the Worst Day Ever™ and my favourite quotes from Love on the spectrum
Hi,
I thought maybe I would get some pause this week, or at least be able to present you with a cheery version of myself but I’ve literally had a dumpster fire of a day and so, this is where you find me. Or I find you. The day began with me tripping in an escalator and grabbing onto the handle as well as a woman to catch myself from falling, and this woman proceeded to hit me, elbow me and then ram me with her pram (child included). At full speed. I’ve not yet recovered from what in the actual f*ck happened, or what would cause someone to lash out so incredibly. I had to jump on my train (I was running because I was late for work, hence the tripping) and didn’t get a chance to catch my breath. So as any normal person would do, I called my mum and cried.
I’m okay, although there will be bruising on my legs. But 7 hours later and I’m still kind of trembling from the shock. What do I do now? I know you probably can’t answer that for me, but like, how do you get over someone randomly attacking you and physically hurting you without anyone around you stepping in? It still feels surreal. And I can’t help but to feel so incredibly bad for the poor baby that was sitting there in the pram.
Money, money, money
In addition to that I had to have a really taxing/draining conversation about money today. I don’t want to go into specifics because of integrity reasons, but man is it tough standing your ground and demanding someone pays you when you have a hard time with money and self-worth. This too has caused my nervous system to be shot, and I feel like I need to go home and lie down for about 5 business days after this.
In almost all other areas of life I have quite a strong sense of self and am good at seeing my own worth. But there’s just something about money and finances that gets me every time. It’s like I‘ve told myself I’m bad at money and therefore my voice, my calculations, my offerings, my time and my budgeting within finances are worth next to nothing. And today I said to myself, “You know what? You’re not being unreasonable and so you shouldn’t have to back down”. I’m really proud of myself for it, but the head-butting that proceeded between me and the other party (who did not want to compromise or reason in the slightest) was on an Olympic level.
Moving on from this crazy day…
What I’ve been eyeing
I’m trying to do a non-specific lowbuy because I honestly don’t *need* more items of clothing, plus my wardrobe doesn’t really fit any more items either. So if I’m buying something, that also means I’ll be needing to get rid of something. (Although this shouldn’t technically be classified as a specific challenge imo, this should just be normal for people)(but we listen and we don’t judge). With that being said, I did find myself on the & Other Stories website the other day because I hadn’t been there in a while and was curious as to what they had. I haven’t been impressed by them in a really long time, with the very few occasional exceptions like the famous leopard print pony-hair bag, but I was pleasantly surprised by this cute denim top and this draped t-shirt. Can see myself wearing both of them a whole lot.
PSA: The veggie starter
I’m sorry to be *that* annoying, but honestly you guys we should all be doing the “veggie starter”. Do you know what it is? Have you tried it?
I first heard of it from the Glucose Goddess and her tips on how to not spike your blood sugar, where eating a so-called veggie starter is one of them. You can go check out her insta posts to find out the science behind it, but starting each meal with a portion of vegetables does incredible things to stabilize your blood sugar, no matter what you eat following it (more or less, don’t quote me on this). I’ve tried it a couple of times, mainly because I usually need a snack while cooking and so peeling a carrot doesn’t feel too hard. And trust me when I say that this has improved my post-meal bloating in remarkable ways.
Food for thought
A mantra that I keep coming back to? You can always change your mind. And then change it again. It’s not groundbreaking by any means, but for a manifesting generator (like me, hehe) it’s sort of the reassurance I need to know that no, I’m not a flake and no, changing your mind a lot is not being a hassle. It’s your life!!! Yes, changing your mind might make something slightly uncomfortable for someone else who has to adjust to the change, but most of the times it’s mostly in your own head. Sometimes, people will be glad you spoke up about something they were thinking to and sometimes people will literally be glad you’re cancelling plans or postponing. So don’t be scared to change your mind!
What I’m watching
I haven’t had the time to watch The White Lotus season finale yet (so no spoilers!!) because I began watching the new season of Love on the spectrum. And now I can’t stop. I’m obsessed with all the brave, kind and clever people in the show and their honest attempts at love. Most of them are way more successful than I am when it comes to navigating dating, communication honestly and being open to keep going even after a let-down. My favourite quotes so far include:
“Do you know any rules when it comes to dating?”
”I know you’re not allowed to tickle them”
“I’m a Coke addict”
“I went to Nashville once. I ate an entire chicken.”
“Were you thinking of copping a feel?
”Oh Cian you have a naughty mind! But accurate…”
“She aroused my intellect… and other thing”
“The taco of success drips with the salsa of failure”
SO MANY GOOD ONES!
What I’ve been reading
This was such a cute read and inspired me to try a couple of new fun combinations in my own wardrobe, even though I won’t be hanging out aat the playground any time soon. I’m a Classic A, aspiring to be a Sporty A.
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If you want to add something purely beautiful and aesthetic to your inbox, you need to be following Carolina and her Storm Journal. Every newsletter is like a carefully curated editorial with interesting women, remarkable art pieces and thoughtfully chosen moodboards.
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Garance always hits the nail on the head with the topics she chooses to write about, but still manages to keep that French grace and poise in her words and attitude. Such an intelligent, inspiring woman!
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You guys. You NEED to follow Charlotte’s Shorts. It’s a wild ride but in the best way and she always make me laugh out loud. Always.
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This round up of summer outfits and pairings sparked a whole lot of ideas in my head for what I need to be looking for come June. I’m not a big shorts-girl, but Emily makes them look so dang good I might just need to give shorts another try. Oh and the husband comment is golden.
Okay this is where I leave you. I hope you’ve had a better day than I have!
All the hugs,
Julia
Cheering you on for standing your ground even though it's hard! Sending you a virtual hug- the escalator incident sounds really upsetting. When I can't put a reason behind people's behaviour events tend to stay with me for longer.
I’m so sorry about the escalator incident! That sounds very scary and traumatic. I can’t believe people. I got bit by a tiny dog once on a walk and I cried for a day about it. I think it brought on other things to cry about— but my point is that getting physically hurt as an adult when you are just going about your day is inexplicably upsetting.
Maybe treat yourself to something small but lovely that won’t compound financial stress? Xx